Is it possible to have a happy and healthy relationship if you have bipolar disorder or are married to someone with bipolar disorder?The picture that comes out of the studies done to date is very mixed.Well, if you don’t, you’re going to keel over, for one.The truth of the matter is that unemployment is not what defines you or your partner completely.If you were married for ten years of longer, you will be eligible to collect derivative Social Security benefits based on your ex-spouse’s earnings record when you reach retirement age (if you aren’t married to someone else at the time).Those derivative benefits are equal to one-half the amount your former spouse is eligible to collect, based on his earnings over his entire career, including the year after your marriage was dissolved.
When the mom asked him why he didn’t return the daughter’s phone calls, he replied: “I don’t have anything to say.”I gave her some ideas about taking the issue to family court, and managing both the daughter’s and her own expectations (stop trying to control him – you can’t).
If you waive your right to alimony, you can’t get it back, even if your marriage lasted over ten years.
A ten-year marriage is also considered to be a long-term marriage by the Social Security Administration.
My own dad was not involved in most of my life — and that devastated me in ways I don’t yet fully understand, but I have harbored a lot of anger about it.
My ex is an awesome father, but there was a time when he was not as reliable as I would have hoped, related to what I wrote about a little bit here.